The fandom life is one of feelings and heated debates over motives and the future of fictional characters that you’ve found yourself emotionally involved with. Which to a person who doesn’t “feel the feels” seems completely mental. I mean Bucky Barnes is not real! and why are you crying over Rue, she’s a fictional girl in a book? and what was that inhuman squeal I just heard?
But why are we so connected up with characters we read or see on screen? what makes us just latch on and want to hug that character with all our hearts?
Here’s my notion on the emotions over fictional characters. It’s because they’ve let us get to know them. Obviously they didn’t consent, the writers wrote them, they haven’t sat down to coffee with us though we’ve sat down to coffee with them as we read Lord of the Rings in our local coffee hangout. But the character’s souls have been bared to us in a way few of our living breathing fellow human beings in actual reality would ever let us get to know them.
Our society is one of shallow friendships and fleeting relationships and here are these people, made real to us by our sight and imagination, and they’re vulnerable enough to allow us to empathize with their woes. The people we actually know won’t let us get to know them so we go and fill the void with fictitious personages to ease that need to be trusted by others.
If people spent more time and weren’t so defensive and allowed others to get to know them and visa versa then maybe, for all it’s glory, the fandom life would not be so vital to us. But with people always holding us at arms length those of us who feel keenly the need to let in on what makes others tick find our solace in the pages of books and the films of the fandom variety.
There’s a sad want for true connection between living breathing human beings and so the fandom lifestyle has grown in accordance. It would be nice, as much as I love the fandom life, to see it’s prominence diminish in favor of actual people letting each other in and bearing each other’s burdens like the fangirls are burdened with our glorious feels!